What Kind of Love Do We Really Want?


We want a love that consumes us more than a love that makes us feel comfortable and secured.

— I actually just commented this on my darling Jayde’s latest post. As I wrote this to her, it also felt like I was talking to myself. The two of us, Jayde and I, besides being the bestest of friends and having the same qualities and desires in life, we are also experiencing the same thing with our romantic relationship. Despite that, we both know that we can get through this. We have each other, and we help each other get back on our feet. ❀





31 thoughts on “What Kind of Love Do We Really Want?

  1. This is how I feel on the topic of love, too. Car insurance gives comfort and security. A roof over our heads at night gives us comfort and security. Love should explode our worlds and consume our souls. But then, I’m a bit of a romantic idealist. Le sigh.

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    1. Ya fucking sweet heart!
      We all are at some point. I keep waiting for him to ride in on a white horse to profess his undying love and devotion to me…..

      Do you know what B said to me today? He told me as long as he is in my life, all other men will just be temporary. How’s that for consumption. I am not sure if this is a heaven or hell at this point anymore.


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        1. WHY’D YOU HAVE TO REMIND MEEEEEE??? I’m listening to it now and I’m going to be listening to it the entire night. Ugh. (I’m actually watching the video I took of Ed Sheeran singing it right before my eyes) πŸ˜›

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  2. That which consumes can’t last – it’s just not the way people are wired. There’s actually science behind this kind of stuff, where there are certain brain chemicals released in the early stages of love that are very similar to a drug high. But these chemicals are only produced for a period of 6 months to 2 years (depending on the person). The research on it is pretty fascinating actually.

    But just because that can’t last doesn’t mean “safe and secure” love has to be boring. It’s only boring if you let it be, and in this regard it’s truly up to both parties to keep some sort of passion and excitement alive in their relationship.

    Unfortunately most people don’t want to have to work at their relationship, or put in the effort required to keep things alive. And then they find themselves disappointed when things “aren’t the same” anymore.

    As for Ed Sheeran, yeah he’s awesome. Saw him twice this year, once in May in Las Vegas and again in August.

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    1. Dopamine? That’s all I can think about. I never knew there was a time limit for it. I thought it was limitless.

      Your words are always so spot-on! And who do you think you are telling me about your dates with my Sheeran and making me jealous?! Haha Kidding. He’s my favorite! Glad you’ve seen him perform too! πŸ™‚

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      1. Yeah, I think that’s it. I did a post on it a while back, and if you read up on it it’s pretty interesting.

        Dopamine still continues to be produced, but the levels it’s produced at are proven to only last 6 months to 2 years depending on the person.

        Unfortunately many associate these early feelings of euphoria with “love”, when it’s actually just a stage. It’s a stage that feels great, but isn’t sustainable. And people who believe that’s what “true love” is supposed to feel like all the time tend to drift from relationship to relationship, looking for something they will never find.

        A saying I like is, “you fall in lust and if you are lucky it develops into love”.

        But as I said above, just because the neurochemical high isn’t sustainable doesn’t mean love has to become boring. That only happens if people let it.

        Long term love requires commitment and nurturing, and requires both people trying to keep some surprise and excitement alive. Pretty hard to do once things like kids come into the picture, which is why so many couples fall into ruts.

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    1. No, sir. πŸ™‚ I’m Pisces. What do you know about astrology? I am interested in it, though not so much. I met a girl on the Interwebs who was so into astrology a few months ago, and I love how passionate she is about it. πŸ™‚

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      1. I thought this because I noticed on your choker that you wear often, what appeared to be a quartz stone. So, I thought maybe you B-day was April. Definitely not May, Taurus, which I am. Our signs share a great kindness toward each other and that shows. We just “get” each other right from the start. We always look after each other.

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