Oftentimes when you think of success, you think of money. And when you think of money, you think of people who are financially and economically blessed like Bill Gates or the late Steve Jobs or anyone who has produced something that has helped your country’s or the world’s economy.
When you think of success, you think of fame. You think of celebrities like Justin Bieber or Taylor Swift. You think of anyone who seems to be doing great at what almost everyone is dreaming to do.
When you think of success, you think of luxury. And when you think of luxury, you think of people who live their life to the fullest doing and getting things they can afford like the Kardashians and people who were born with silver spoon in their mouths.
But success isn’t always measured by how much you already have or how popular you have already become. It is not about having so much or being able to afford everything you want.
Think of the people in your life who have lots of money. Most of them seem to be living their life, posting photos of things they have, places they visit, and people they socialize with. But how many of them actually live happily and satisfyingly? How many live horribly and unhappily? You will never know.
You will only know once you hear it in the news that one of them has committed suicide by hanging themselves, or by drowning themselves in alcohol or overdosing themselves on drugs. That’s when you realize that not every thing you know based on a superficial level is actually what’s going on in real life.
So if you asked me, are all rich people actually successful?
My answer would be a no. Not all rich people are.
Success, for me, is more than numbers. SUCCESS IS A FEELING. It is actually measured by how evolved you are as a person and how you still ache for yourself to continuously evolve. It is about being able to use the excess that you have for good purposes. It is about being happy and content with what you have, but not stopping there. It is about having the urge to discover things, to learn, to grow.
Now if you asked me if I feel successful, my answer would be a YES.
I feel successful minus the numbers.
I feel successful because I feel surrounded by high-frequency people. I have stopped surrounding myself with low-frequency ones for a long period of time and started spending more time and effort with the ones who actually add more value to my life. These people I am referring to are mostly my family and my trusted friends.
I feel successful because I am doing the things I enjoy doing. I have stopped eating crappy food all the time and started doing high-quality activities. Currently, I am working remotely as a full-time social media manager and a business development manager. Sometimes when I am feeling lazy (and you’re allowed to be lazy), I work from my bed. And sometimes when I am feeling more productive, I am that girl you see with her MacBook in a coffee shop.
I feel successful because I can work at anytime, anywhere. And on my free time, I can do whatever I want. I usually work and get productive at night. I work from nine in the evening until four in the morning, with lots of small breaks in between. When I finish my work, I prepare myself and go for a run. I do that three times a week. And on the days I don’t feel like doing anything strenuous, I plan to get out of the city and visit my grandmother.
I feel successful because I have started getting rid of the things that I do not need anymore and stopped adding or owning things that aren’t actually important. In the beginning, I had a hard time practicing a minimalist life. But now, I can live every day with just my computer, my phone, some basic things I need and nothing more. I moved in with my friends in Manila a month ago, and all I have with me are one handbag containing my clothes and a backpack where I keep my computer and all my necessities.
In other words, I feel successful because I feel like I am living a balanced life. I work from home some days, then work outside where I can get free wifi on other days. I do physical activities three times a week and then do nothing physically tiring for the rest of the week. I eat healthy food and then I treat myself with something unhealthy (like fast food haha) after. I hustle and chill on weekdays and go party or socialize with friends on the weekends.
Success is like…never stopping yourself from improvement and never staying away from opportunities.
I’ve learned in the past few months that networking or socializing with new people every day actually helps you a lot in establishing your career. Had I not realized it, I would still be working part-time for small companies right now. But thanks to the amazing woman I met from the Rise Conference in Hong Kong last July, I was able to put myself out there and introduce myself to people who I know would play a very important role in my career.
Now, I have been receiving lots of offers from big companies, both local and international. I have also been getting brand sponsorships and collaborations. In short, career wise, I am doing really well and I will keep doing well. I crave to be more evolved so I could focus on the more important things and people in my life.
I have come close to living with my values and ideals and it feels amazing. I feel happier now. I feel more present with the people I love dearly. I spend my time better and I am focusing on achieving more goals and pursuing more dreams. I feel more resilient when it comes to taking challenges. I feel like I am living at a frequency higher than what I have before.
To feel successful, you have to be more focused on high-quality living. It doesn’t mean you have to live a luxurious life. It means being able to easily spot mediocrity and stay away from it. It means not spending your time with just about anyone anymore, but choosing the right people to share your precious time with. It means not eating anything on the table just because it is there in front of you but picking what goes into your body because you know that your body naturally ages and not everything you eat can be beneficial to it.
Living a high-quality life means being smart financially and emotionally. It is cutting back on spending your money on things that don’t last long or cutting back on spending your time on relationships that don’t allow you to grow. It means investing in something that you know will improve your life in the future. Your values and your relationships must always be both high qualities. Your everyday life should always only involve the things that you highly value.
Doing these things and following these principles, I admit, are difficult. It takes a while for you to be able to live with momentum and balance. But if you take it one step at a time, I am pretty sure, you will get to it. You don’t need lots of money to feel successful. You don’t need to live beyond your means just to show people you have everything you could ever want. You don’t need to pretend to be well-off when you know you have debts you haven’t paid. If there’s anything I am proud of about myself, it is the fact that even though I am not rich, I don’t have any debts. People can continuously mock me and tell me I am unsuccessful because I cannot afford the stuff they can. But here’s the thing, I always live within my means and make sure I only get what I can afford. And when I want something but I cannot afford it, I hustle more until I can get it.
And that, my lovelies, is how you can feel successful, like me, even though other people think you are not because you’re not rich. 😛