All That I’ve Got

night magic

I need something else

Would someone please just give me

Hit me, knock me out

And let me go back to sleep

— All That I’ve Got – The Used
My mornings usually start with looking at my phone and finding a message from my sister, and my nights usually end with another message from her reminding me how much she loves and misses me. She does this even at times I don’t get a chance to respond to her.

I have always thought that my sister is the most misunderstood member in our family. Our dad’s family has always seen her as the black sheep, psycho granddaughter, niece, daughter, cousin and sister. They think of her as someone who shouldn’t be imitated, despite the praises they give her for being so smart in school.

I remember them reminding me not to be like her. I remember myself reassuring them I won’t, although in my mind, I know that my sister is the best and I am very proud of her.

I could not blame our relatives for calling her a black sheep and for seeing her that way. She has always been the one who goes against rules when she knows that these rules violate her right as a person. I think I may have gotten that attitude from her.

My sister has a personality disorder, and she has been through a lot of traumatic events in her life. She has suffered more than I have, yet she remains to be my strength. I couldn’t be any more proud of having her as my sister. I get anxious and really depressed every single second but every time she tells me she loves me, I feel a whole lot better.

It’s a little bit funny because I know how often she gets depressed, yet she always seems so happy every time she texts me or calls me on the phone. In fact, she always sounds so cheerful and enthusiastic. I admire her ability to cover what she really feels deep inside her. I know her too well. I know she has negative thoughts and that she has still been fighting off her demons. She is doing a really good job in hiding it.

I have to admit that behind these self-strength posts I always write is an anxious and depressive woman who continuously tries to battle all the things that makes her feel bad about herself.

Every day, just like what my sister does, I do my best to be the better version of myself. I try to smile, to laugh, and to think of myself as a strong person. Sometimes I fail, but every time I do, I think of my sister and remember how she, herself, has done her best to be better, to think positively and to be happy despite every thing.

I know that we’re not perfect. We make stupid mistakes, but these mistakes help us learn and grow day by day. My sister doesn’t have to remind me to learn from her, but I do remember how she never lets her past hinder her from being the amazing person that she is.

Sometimes, we learn from our mistakes. Sometimes, we learn from others. Sometimes, we grow on our own. Sometimes, we grow with others. ❤️

I’ll be just fine

Pretending I’m not

I’m far from lonely

And it’s all that I’ve got.

  • Keep making mistakes… it’s ok.

    • If it’s the same mistakes, it’s not okay. 😛

      • There is that… but you have to keep trying right?

  • Your sister sounds like an awesome person!

    • Thank you so much. 😊 She definitely is! ❤

  • You both sound amazing. It’s so okay to be who we are, to feel the way we do, to not be perfect.

    • Thank you very much for these uplifting words. I know we don’t know each other too well, but I am sure you are as amazing as you think we are. 😊❤

  • This is a well thought out view of your sister. Thanks for sharing! 🙂

  • One great post. Seems like your sister’s situation is the same as mine. People see me as a bad person but they never knew what I’ve been through (or even if they do, they don’t care). It’s hard to be labeled as a “black sheep” esp when you’re trying to become better. Your sister’s lucky because she got you. She has someone who sees her as a different person. I wish I have someone from my family as well.

    • I feel for you, Tony! But basing on what I see through your writing, I am sure that you are an amazingly good person even though we don’t know each other that much. Thank you! I am lucky to have my sister as well. 😊